19 Apr What Will My Child Think of Me If I Choose Adoption?
One of the most common fears, when a woman is facing an unplanned pregnancy and considering her options, is that her child will think less of her or think that they were not loved because they were placed for adoption. On the contrary, adoption is a beautiful and loving choice that a parent makes for their child, and adopted children are raised to understand that adoption is a choice made out of great love.
We will help you select the right adoptive family for your child. We will ask you about your preferences and desires for a family. Do you prefer to help a childless family who is unable to get pregnant? Would you like a family already raising children or would you like your child to be the first child in the family? Do you prefer a family in a certain geographic area or a family of a certain religion? You will be able to meet with the family you choose and develop and maintain a relationship with them if you like, both during your pregnancy and after placement.
Adoptive parents raise their children to understand that their biological mothers made a difficult and selfless choice to plan a stable, loving future for their babies. Adopted children are taught that their biological parents were not at a place in their lives where they were able to be good parents and that they made an adoption plan out of love and caring for their child’s future. Your child will grow to understand that your adoption plan was a decision made with a great love for them. You also have the opportunity to write your child a letter that they can read when they are older, so they can understand why you chose adoption.
Most adoptions today are semi-open, meaning that the birth mother has some relationship with the adoptive family. An estimated 90% of adopted children see their adoption experience as positive. The vast majority of adopted children lead full and happy lives with their adoptive families. Birth parents are not forgotten, they are loved and respected. You will be too.