Choosing adoption means I don’t really love my baby.

Women who choose adoption are motivated by their love and concern for their child. Typically, people who make an adoption plan are doing so because they feel the child’s needs will best be met through adoption.

If I plan an adoption, I’ll never see my child again.

Today, most adoptions are open or semi-open, with some form of ongoing contact. Cradle of Hope will help you develop a relationship with the adoptive family and create a legally enforceable agreement for ongoing visits with your child. Your role is honored and respected.

The birth father doesn’t care about me or the baby.

The lack of birth father involvement does not necessarily reflect a lack of concern. Birth fathers are often unsure about their role. Given the opportunity to have a voice in the adoption process and receive counseling and support, many become involved in the planning.

I got myself into this; I need to do the responsible thing and keep my baby.

Considering adoption demonstrates taking responsibility for your child. Exploring your circumstances, feelings, and the needs of your child will help you to make a decision that’s best for you and for your baby.

If I plan an adoption, I will be haunted by grief and guilt.

There is grief and loss in adoption. An open or semi-open adoption allows you to have a role in your child’s life and the ability to see your child grow and thrive in his or her adoptive family. Adoption can bring you peace of mind and an ongoing relationship with your child.

Adoption is confusing for children.

 Secrets are confusing and unhealthy for children. Open adoption removes the mystery and allows the child’s questions to be answered openly and honestly. With the love and support of their birth and adoptive families, children develop high self-esteem and a healthy sense of identity.

My friends and family would think badly of me if I planned an adoption.

Many people are unfamiliar or uncomfortable with adoption. You may need to educate your friends and relatives. If you feel comfortable and confident in your adoption plan, that will set the stage for how they feel. Just like choosing adoption was not an overnight decision for you, your support network may need a little time to accept that you’ve made the best plan possible for your child.